What is happiness? Majority of the world doesn’t have a clue.
I am talking about real and lasting happiness, not just experiencing pleasures that we derive from other people, places and things.
There is a difference between pleasure and deeper happiness.
When we achieve or get something pleasurable in life, we will soon notice that the nice feeling will lessen with time.
Take for example that you want a brand new car. You want it for years and you think and feel that once you get it you will be really happy. And the day comes when finally you succeed and you get that new car. You are overjoyed. You drive around the town and you enjoy everything about that car.
But soon enough you will begin to take it for granted. The car will not give you happiness anymore. Sooner or later, you feel like you need to move into something new or something else.
This is an example of temporary or fleeting happiness, one that is based purely on pleasure.
That is not the happiness I am talking about!
The happiness I am talking about is real and lasting and it is inside everyone of us. We just need to learn how to tap into it.
Let’s start with ten tips that will help us move into right direction.
Tips on being happy with yourself
Understand that life is a journey not a destination.
This seems simple at first but like most things simply doesn’t mean it is easy.
There is nowhere we need to go and nothing we need to do in order to be happy. We all have a certain life span in this reality from which we cannot escape.
What we choose to do on this journey is all up to us. End goals never last. Everything that we do as physical beings will eventually disappear. Empires crumble, dynasties disappear, wealth gets lost. This is the nature of life.
Everything is in a constant state of change. Recognizing this allows us to focus more on the quality of the journey instead of the end result.
Be gentle and kind to yourself.
We were born unto this world without a manual from which we can get all the answers. Most of us really didn’t have the help and the support of our parents and society simply because our parents and society were also lost and didn’t have a clue about the real way to be happy in life and with yourself.
Seeing this will allow us to ease up on the pressure that we are putting on ourselves. Most of the time we are the ones being our own worst enemy.
Forgive yourself and others for any past mistakes or wrongdoings.
Sometimes we feel it is not easy to forgive. We feel that if we do that, the other person that has done us wrong will go out unpunished. And that is simply as assumption from our part.
We need to let go of the role of judge and jury. There is such a thing as karma. It is not our job to judge and punish. Remember the line, “Judge not, and you will not be judged.”
Surround yourself with positive people.
Try this as an exercise. Think of five people that you spend most of the time with. Now check and see if they are mostly positive or negative?
Who you keep in your company is who you are being in the moment. Choose to be with positive people that will bring out the best in you and not the stress in you.
Stop wasting time on things that drain your energy.
Give yourself some positive energy. You can do this by going out in the nature or simply by giving yourself a Reiki treatment. You can read about a fast way to learn Reiki online in my other blog post.
Stop watching TV. Did you notice that lately most of the movies that come out are some sort of horror movies? Do we need more fear or more love in our lives?
When you start to feel happiness, take a moment and check from where does it really come from?
Does that happiness that you start to feel really come from the outside, from the people, place or thing, or perhaps it originates from inside of you?
If we actually take some time to consider this, we will notice that the happiness always comes from inside out.
Why is this important?
Because that means that happiness is always present within us and is always available, if we know how to activate it. Being happy is our birth right.
Everyday you can do something to improve yourself.
It is never too late, you are never too old and the ship for happiness and improvement will never sail away. Learn something new. Read a new book. Take a foreign language class. Enroll in a dance class.
Improve your life by learning something new. You will be amazed how much you can do if you put just a little bit of effort in it.
Start letting go of your negative feelings and emotions.
Negative feelings and emotions are the things that are dragging us down to the bottom. It is the excuse we unconsciously use for not being happy. It is the only thing that is standing in our way of experiencing joy and bliss all the time.
You can learn how to do this effectively in this online course.
Don’t get hung up on the end result.
Let go of figuring out how things are going to turn out. It doesn’t really matter how things turn out and in what way something shows up in your life.
By giving your focus and attention into expecting a certain result, you could be setting yourself up for a failure and disappointment. Expectations are based in wanting to control and lusting for something to happen.
What if we could be happy with or without our goal really happening?
Love unconditionally. Love even when you feel like you don’t want to. Love even if the only reason to love is for you to feel good.
It is when you love that you feel good. Take this for checking. See that every time you loved something or someone, you felt good. It was not the other way around. It was not when others were loving you. It was only when you were loving.
Take some time and learn about unconditional love from the master.
These are my tips on how to be happy with yourself. I hope you like them.
Please feel free to use them and share them abundantly and comment if you think something important should be added to the list.
Until next time..
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