Motivation for a change is your drive to change beliefs and behaviors that are no longer serving you.
The best place motivation of this type can come from, is from inside. That means that the real reasons why you are interested in the change are because of your happiness and well-being.
In other words, change is not motivated because of the outside factors, like the need for approval or wanting others to love or accept us.
Now there is so much “free” information and so-called “experts” out there that are making this process of change more complicated than it needs to be.
I made so many important changes in my life and also helped a lot of people change their lives for the better.
Motivation for change was always an important component in the process.
What can you do when you feel like you need to change but there is no motivation available for you?
Having no motivation means that you need to push through the roadblocks to ensure that the change happens.
Signs of needing to change
What is something you would like to change about yourself or your life?
I know when I first experienced that I needed to change. It was a gut feeling that was followed by a constant feeling of anxiety and general uneasiness.
For you, it can be something similar to that. A sense of uneasiness, or a nagging gut feeling that is showing you something is off.
And it is running 24/7.
You must recognize the signs of change. They are not appearing by accident.
The alarm will only get louder and louder if ignored.
How to find your motivation for a change
Once you are sure you need to change, you need to find out the motivation for it.
You need to be able to reach deep inside and figure out why you need to do what you need to do to change.
For me, the motivation started to appear when I realized that the pain of that situation where I found myself was far greater than the pain of actually going through the change itself.
In other words, the pain of change was finally the lesser evil compared to the pain of remaining in the same place.
Now for each of us, this pain level is different.
Amazingly, the level of emotional and mental pain that we as humans can tolerate, although different is still extremely high.
But when I honestly asked myself, would I accept being in this situation for the rest of my life, the answer was a clear NO!
Once that part became clear to me, and I mean really clear, the rest was just a matter of spending my time and energy finding the best way to go through it fully.
The motivation for change was there!
Unfortunately, real change is painful. It is uncomfortable. And because it is painful people don’t like it. It appears that the motivation for change is really hard to both find and maintain.
In the depth of our being, we don’t like the change.
But it is of the utmost importance that we embrace change, as it signifies our progress in life.
We need to listen to the messages of our soul that we are receiving. Ignoring these impulses leads to a dissatisfied life.
Acting on these impulses for change is the only way to guarantee true happiness in life.
Because acting on them means you are following what is important. You are following your heart.
Importance of working with a personal development consultant
The easiest and quickest path is choosing someone who can support you and help you navigate the whole process of change.
When I started working on my issues I would usually first try to do it alone. This was because of the fear of sharing what I considered a “weakness” with someone else.
I believed I would be judged harshly, embarrassed or that somehow my self-image will suffer.
Now a lot of time has passed since then and having worked with a lot of different people, later on, both in having them consult me or working 1-on-1 in peer sessions, I can honestly say I was completely wrong in my original assumption.
Having a personal development consultant (or a life coach) can greatly speed things up for you.
It will give you the clarity and space you need to figure everything out for yourself. It will also provide you with the emotional support you need to go through the process in the best way for you.
All the answers you are looking for are hidden inside yourself, and nobody from the outside can help you or give you the final answers.
But what they CAN do is give you a pointer or show you direction where you can look for those answers, thus reducing the time it will take you to sort it out for yourself.
There is also one more really important thing where you could get help by working with someone.
And that is in avoiding self-sabotage.
Self-sabotage could come in various ways.
The most common ones are failing to take action, denial that you even have a problem, blaming or shifting responsibility onto someone else, and some others as well.
Now, there will always be roadblocks during the change process.
That is something that is natural and it is an important part of the whole process. Think of it as a final test of your will and determination for a change.
But what separates people who go through this process and change, from those that fall fully into a victim mentality, is focus on taking action and going for those small wins.
If you are tired of lacking the motivation and the support for change and if you are tired of not answering the call to change, I invite you to check out my Executive Coaching / Private Sessions page.
Maybe it is time for you to start changing. This time you no longer need to do it alone.
You now have a chance to change in the best way possible.
You can change with love.
Think about it. And then act.